The Dark Room
I was talking to a friend about the depression that she experienced before. It still creeps up in her life from time to time.
My understanding of depression is the resulting mental state of having to deal with the clashes between one's ideals and the reality. Simply put, dreams that don't fall through or wishes don’t fulfilled can depress you. You got an impression as if nothing is going your way. You just let go your feelings. You don't want to distinguish what is good and bad, or what is happy or sad. It's all bad and all sad...
I came up with a metaphor that might help with a mind that slides into a depressing state. Or at least that's what I would do not to get myself into that kind of state.
First of all, the most dangerous thing is to stop feeling. You have to keep your feelings sharp. And you have to accept that it's impossible to keep your feelings happy everywhere all the time. You are the master of your house. Every room represents different areas of your life. Some rooms are sun-filled. Some are dark. The dark room is the core of this topic. Sometimes leaving the dark room in its place might be the best way to go. Don't let the atmosphere take over the whole house. But don't forget the dark room either. It's there in your house. It will affect your mood. So go back in there when you feel that you can deal with the darkness. Do some dusting, move the furniture around or set a mirror inside... just to see if the scenario can be changed there. If nothing changes, maybe the timing isn't right. Leave it again. You never know. When you come back, the sun might have already filled it up. Or you might be ready to accept the room as it is -- it's normal to have a room that is darker than the rest of the house anyways.
All in all, it's ok to feel sad as long as you don't let the mood take over your life. Don’t rely on the state of happiness to last either. Real life requires human beings deal with both. In the end, what I always say to myself holds the ultimate validity: "enjoy when you can, endure when you must."
My understanding of depression is the resulting mental state of having to deal with the clashes between one's ideals and the reality. Simply put, dreams that don't fall through or wishes don’t fulfilled can depress you. You got an impression as if nothing is going your way. You just let go your feelings. You don't want to distinguish what is good and bad, or what is happy or sad. It's all bad and all sad...
I came up with a metaphor that might help with a mind that slides into a depressing state. Or at least that's what I would do not to get myself into that kind of state.
First of all, the most dangerous thing is to stop feeling. You have to keep your feelings sharp. And you have to accept that it's impossible to keep your feelings happy everywhere all the time. You are the master of your house. Every room represents different areas of your life. Some rooms are sun-filled. Some are dark. The dark room is the core of this topic. Sometimes leaving the dark room in its place might be the best way to go. Don't let the atmosphere take over the whole house. But don't forget the dark room either. It's there in your house. It will affect your mood. So go back in there when you feel that you can deal with the darkness. Do some dusting, move the furniture around or set a mirror inside... just to see if the scenario can be changed there. If nothing changes, maybe the timing isn't right. Leave it again. You never know. When you come back, the sun might have already filled it up. Or you might be ready to accept the room as it is -- it's normal to have a room that is darker than the rest of the house anyways.
All in all, it's ok to feel sad as long as you don't let the mood take over your life. Don’t rely on the state of happiness to last either. Real life requires human beings deal with both. In the end, what I always say to myself holds the ultimate validity: "enjoy when you can, endure when you must."
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