guilt of pointing to the little guilty one
i found out sienna was not telling me the truth in more than one incident.
we take turn watching TV. i am about to turn on the TV, sienna declares, "the remote control is missing, mommy." lui say, "oh, let's look for it." sienna goes, "oh, don't look for it." as it turned out, she hid the remote control inside her kitchen set. we all laught it off on this one.
last weekend, i caught her getting socks out of a drawer. "why are you changing your socks, sienna?" i asked. "my socks are missing," she replied. as it turned out, she opened a bottle of baby oil and had a little self-massage session on both of her feet. when she put the socks back on, they were so greasy. so was my bed sheet, so was the hardwood floor, from our bedroom to hers...
i said, "sienna, you did two things wrong today. no. 1, you didn't ask for permission to open the bottle. no. 2, you could have told mommy that your socks were wet from the oil. but you told me they were missing." i was not mad but very firm and clear.
i turnd off the tv that she was watching and told her there was no tv that whole day. she kept saying she was sorry. by the evening, she told her daddy, "it's mommy's turn today to watch tv." lui was a bit surprised that she would give up her turn so easily. i said, "sure, and sienna knows why she has no tv today." end of the story.
i remember the first time when i was caught lying. my mother gave me some goodies to share with my younger brother. i ate his portion but told my mother i did give him his share. my mother didn't say anything at first. and she got me to confess by telling me a famous story. that was the first time i heard "here comes the wolf" and i remembered it for life. but that was when i was at least 7 years old or maybe older.
with sienna, i am debating myself. since she is blossoming, certain things need to be nipped in the buds. on the other hand though, i think maybe it's too early to get her into the big concept of lying. i want to give her more chances to make mistakes and face the concequences herself. she is a little girl known for being able to tell the right from wrong. i almost feel guilty to tell her that she is guilty of anything like that.
we take turn watching TV. i am about to turn on the TV, sienna declares, "the remote control is missing, mommy." lui say, "oh, let's look for it." sienna goes, "oh, don't look for it." as it turned out, she hid the remote control inside her kitchen set. we all laught it off on this one.
last weekend, i caught her getting socks out of a drawer. "why are you changing your socks, sienna?" i asked. "my socks are missing," she replied. as it turned out, she opened a bottle of baby oil and had a little self-massage session on both of her feet. when she put the socks back on, they were so greasy. so was my bed sheet, so was the hardwood floor, from our bedroom to hers...
i said, "sienna, you did two things wrong today. no. 1, you didn't ask for permission to open the bottle. no. 2, you could have told mommy that your socks were wet from the oil. but you told me they were missing." i was not mad but very firm and clear.
i turnd off the tv that she was watching and told her there was no tv that whole day. she kept saying she was sorry. by the evening, she told her daddy, "it's mommy's turn today to watch tv." lui was a bit surprised that she would give up her turn so easily. i said, "sure, and sienna knows why she has no tv today." end of the story.
i remember the first time when i was caught lying. my mother gave me some goodies to share with my younger brother. i ate his portion but told my mother i did give him his share. my mother didn't say anything at first. and she got me to confess by telling me a famous story. that was the first time i heard "here comes the wolf" and i remembered it for life. but that was when i was at least 7 years old or maybe older.
with sienna, i am debating myself. since she is blossoming, certain things need to be nipped in the buds. on the other hand though, i think maybe it's too early to get her into the big concept of lying. i want to give her more chances to make mistakes and face the concequences herself. she is a little girl known for being able to tell the right from wrong. i almost feel guilty to tell her that she is guilty of anything like that.
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