Best Situation Out of Worst Possibilities

I had an eerie feeling after I wrote the blog about the conversation between me, the mother and Sienna, the daughter. I was only too busy to ponder more about the topic. I only had the time to write one more entry after that.

A week later, one night, the husband sat me down and gave me the biggest shock of my life. My mother was diagnosed with cancer on her left kidney. The whole family kept me in the dark. Even when they called Lui, they asked him to still keep from telling me until a surgery was performed to remove her infected kidney. I was sucked into a big black hole... The things that I said to Sienna with ease were nearly impossible to even imagine in reality.

Friday last week was one of the worst days in my life. We still needed to find out if the cells are anywhere else in her body. The good news came the next day as we were told that a 2 X 3cm spot was all there was to the cancer. And my mother didn't even need to go through the chemotherapy. I educated myself within a day or two with all the info I could get about kidney cancer. As far as I understood, the worst thing about kidney cancer is that it has hardly any symptoms associated with it before it is too late. When there is blood in the urine, it would be a done deal. In my mother's case, a spot was detected by an ultra sound routine check on every organs in her body. Then in a matter of a week, the decision was made to remove the one of the kidneys, under the best medical care that city had to offer… These days, the family are in fact in a celebrating mood. I always say one can always make the best out of even the worst situation. This is got to be the case - cancer on one kidney with an early detection is the best cancer of all kinds.

My mother said she is very thankful despite the scare and suffering from the surgery. I think she got away with it this time with a big but brief scare. I said to my mother: you have had quite a smooth-sailing life; this is nature's intention of trying to make a balance for you. The mystery was at the very moment when Sienna and I were exploring the topic between a daughter and mother, my mother was facing the very same real dilemma in reality thousands of miles away.

I don't talk about my family a lot on my blog as originally I set it up to record of process of raising Sienna. I would need a few blog sites devoted to each one of them, the husband, the mother, the father, the brother... My mother is one mighty woman. I always wanted to become someone like my mother not only because she is my mother, but because who she is. My friend once told me. "Everyone wants to have a mother like yours. How come you are so lucky to have her?" She is a person full of positive energy and an extraordinary mind. She is one protector for everyone around her and at the same time she protects herself well. Only now I realized I never needed to worry about her. For that strange week, I somehow thought of calling her and never picked up the phone. Now for the days, months and years to come, knowing there is a monster hovering around her brings me closer to my mother. I suddenly became a protector of my mother as well as my daughter. And I learnt, under any circumstances, tears are only expressions but not solutions.