My Problem with Princesses
My friend Abby decided that it's about time that Sienna, being her "God Daughter", inherit her Disney's Classic Collectible VHS Cassettes. We paid a little visit to her house after the super today. I started sipping through the shelf and picking up this one and that one. Sienna, acting like a Mommy, kept saying to me, "Mommy, that's enough. That's enough." Don't want to impress my daughter with a greedy mommy image. We ended up bringing only about 7 tapes home and we watched "The Little Mermaid" together.
I have been so reluctant to introduce Sienna to princess stories although she is full of princess already. I read books about Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Mermaid, Clara ... Oh, my gosh, it's a long list already. I read them with no passion, but some skipping and muddling through. Not like when I read my favourite "Madeline" or "The Wizard of Oz"... I keep wondering who can start fuelling little girls dreams in a more fun and constructive way.
I would rather consider it a princess phase that she is going through. I will have problems with princess if you tell me princess phenomenon is permanent with her. The idea of princess gives the non-queen / non-king parents a lot of pressure. It would make you feel inadequate in the way you give love. Feeling being a princess doesn't give the princess herself a lot of options either. You don't have to do much but making yourself as pretty as you can be, be patient and pray. Some 500 hundred years later, your due will come when a prince comes to give you a kiss...
Also, the idea of having pure love is somehow intoxicating. I grew up watching how the genuine love played out between my parents. Even that was misleading to some degree in real life, let alone the pretend play in those princess stories.
Despite my possible problems with princess, it is an unavoidable phenomenon. In fact, I am very grateful for Abby's generosity. A prince takes a long time to come, if he ever does, but her fairy God Mother does exist to keep her princess dream, intact for now.
I have been so reluctant to introduce Sienna to princess stories although she is full of princess already. I read books about Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Mermaid, Clara ... Oh, my gosh, it's a long list already. I read them with no passion, but some skipping and muddling through. Not like when I read my favourite "Madeline" or "The Wizard of Oz"... I keep wondering who can start fuelling little girls dreams in a more fun and constructive way.
I would rather consider it a princess phase that she is going through. I will have problems with princess if you tell me princess phenomenon is permanent with her. The idea of princess gives the non-queen / non-king parents a lot of pressure. It would make you feel inadequate in the way you give love. Feeling being a princess doesn't give the princess herself a lot of options either. You don't have to do much but making yourself as pretty as you can be, be patient and pray. Some 500 hundred years later, your due will come when a prince comes to give you a kiss...
Also, the idea of having pure love is somehow intoxicating. I grew up watching how the genuine love played out between my parents. Even that was misleading to some degree in real life, let alone the pretend play in those princess stories.
Despite my possible problems with princess, it is an unavoidable phenomenon. In fact, I am very grateful for Abby's generosity. A prince takes a long time to come, if he ever does, but her fairy God Mother does exist to keep her princess dream, intact for now.
posted by minimum at
2:30 PM
1 Comments:
Yes.. a godma is very important.. Min.. :)
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Ms One Boobie , at 12:42 PM
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